Help!!! Here’s the story…
So I love to see my wife naked, rub her body, make love to her, lick her pussy… all the above. To me it’s a great bonding experience for the one I love. Only one problem… she doesn’t feel the same way.
She enjoys having sex and gets an orgasm 90% of the time, but regardless how good it is she just doesn’t care for it more than once every two weeks. She could have an amazing orgasm and then not care for one for weeks.
I certainly don’t understand it, but then again she doesn’t understand why I would want it more often than that. The less we touch each other, make love etc the further away I get from her. I get to the point I don’t want to see her naked anymore and I don’t want to have sex with her anymore. Only problem is I know once I get to that point then it puts our marriage in jeopardy because we will grow farther and farther apart.
I thought it was a good thing to have a spouse who wants you, thinks your sexy, loves to see you naked, loves to rub your body and give you pleasure. Isn’t that a good thing?? Isn’t it better than thinking she’s fat and ugly and turn the lights out when it’s time for sex? if you do have sex?
So we fight about this all the time, nonstop. It’s now at the point I have a decision to make:
- Do I stop wanting her and live our lives miserable?
- or do we divorce and I find someone who’s wanting that connection?
She’s made it clear she will not change. She does not want more sex, she will not give blow jobs (she licks but that’s it), she will not do anal, she will not try new positions (it’s missionary or her on top that’s it), she will not just get naked for me, she will not just enjoy sex.
She has told me to just enjoy life and what it brings and stop wanting sex, just be happy for what you get. I don’t know about you, but that’s not how I want to live. I WANT sex. I WANT a wife who wants sex. I WANT a blow job. If I have to settle for what “what I get” then this is going to be one miserable rest of my life.
What would you do? Any suggestions? Please leave a comment and tell me what you would do or if you have the same problem.