Carla J asked:
Basically I’m 17 and I reaaally want to have sex, like REALLY. But I’m so paranoid about a number of things, the way it looks, the way I’ll feel, is he using me, will it hurt, but the main one is, what do I do? Anyone know a good porn link or step-by-step video on what actually needs to be done? Moving techniques etc? I have sort of had sex once before but we didn’t finish, so I don’t even know if I’ve broke my virginity, which isn’t exactly good! But yeah does anyone know any videos which gives a good show on what actually needs to be done? Lol thanks 
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10 responses so far ↓
1 Amélie R // Feb 19, 2010 at 8:18 am
If you’re having all these concerns then you are not ready.
Porn wont show you how to have normal people sex.
2 Cassie C // Feb 22, 2010 at 1:29 pm
i’d say don’t watch videos just honestly do what comes naturally, everyone gets worried sometimes but it’s natural and if hes on top you dont have to do that much lol…but ul b fine hon ok xxx
3 Sexee Lexi // Feb 25, 2010 at 11:15 am
Im a lesbian but pretty much if your going to sleep with a guy just lay there and let him do his thing…and knock the crap out of him if he starts hurting you and doesnt want to stop…. A porn website you could watch is at and I would check into kama sutra techniques too…
4 yaya16 // Feb 28, 2010 at 4:11 am
Just go with the flow, you don’t have to watch porn or get any advice on technique.
5 rarteaga1975 // Mar 3, 2010 at 3:19 pm
Amelie R is right…there are a few instructional videos available for couples who want to be a little more adventurous but outside of that they won’t show you anything other than the naughty bits and you don’t want THAT stuff going through your mind the first few times you’re doing it.
The important thing to remember but not dwell on is that when you’re getting ready to have sex your body will prompt you to do the things you’re supposed to do. Whenever you’ve heard about someone being ‘bad’ at it they’re usually talking about someone who wants to overthink the situation. Just do what comes naturally and everything will be alright. But don’t give your partner all the control. It’s meant to be enjoyable and fun for everyone involved.
And never, EVER underestimate the power of being spontaneous…it makes things just that much more fun.
6 Gypsy Queen // Mar 5, 2010 at 7:45 pm
Well I had the same concern when I was gonna do it for the first time and I was 24…lol..I looked up online for readings, as opposed to watching porn, which is not really sex, its more of just chitty chitty bang bang….u wanna make love, not a casual f*k session (sorry for my language)
But if u learn all about kissing, and how to kiss, and make out…and maybe u mite wanna read up on how to go down on a guy, ur good…thats all pretty much u need to know, cuz believe me everything else will come naturally, and u will use ur instincts when ur there. The kind of sounds u need to make, the way u need to behave, and how to do what and where will follow naturally, as long as u know the basics..kissing, making out, and maybe going down, if ur comfy.
Other than that, u;ll be fine, best of luck to you, and one piece of advise I can give u is that, dont have sex for the heck of having sex, do it with the right person, even it means u have to wait..it will be well worth it, cuz u will feel loved, not used…
Take care
7 djbreed_2000 // Mar 7, 2010 at 2:42 am
check out teen source.org,it may help with some questions.
I think you shouldn’t have sex,just for the sake of losing your virginity.Once you give that away it’s gone forever,,so be careful who you give it too…cause most likely they won’t care.
If you don’t know if you broke your hymen and are or are not a virgin,,then most likely you are not…you will have pain when you do and a small amount of blood,so be careful who’s car your in…(lol)…always make him use a CONDOM,you don’t know who or how many he has been with…
8 kilobosch // Mar 7, 2010 at 9:01 am
WOW….. please rethink your decision first. This isn’t something you can get back. Personally I think you’re too young. My sister was really young (about your age) and let me tell you, she definitely wishes she’d held out longer. Now it’s ammunition in her relationship with her husband. You never know in the future what can ruin a relationship!!!
9 CorpCityGrl // Mar 8, 2010 at 3:36 am
Honestly, if you have all these concerns then maybe you are not quite ready to have sex. Sex is something that is natural.
10 Rachel_69 // Mar 9, 2010 at 1:01 am
if he has had sex before he should know what to do
then just follow him and make sure you enjoy it
do not look at porn sites because they are people who don’t have normal sex and i think you are under age !!
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