Keshh asked:
My boyfriend and I have been going at it for almost a year now (March will mark a year) and I have yet to have an orgasm. This is something that I very much want to do, and I know he wants me to, too. I fear there may be something wrong with me or something … We’ve tried everything, oral, masturbation, whipped cream … nothing seems to work :(. He’s coming over tonight and I’m hoping to give him that as a surprise. Any ideas, help, suggestions?
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7 responses so far ↓
1 yagmurxbaby // May 17, 2009 at 7:52 am
try new things, sex toys?
2 ~*$#@W+Y G0T iiT*~ // May 19, 2009 at 1:28 am
yu have tohave goood sex.
apparently hes not that good.
no offence. . .but that is wahh it is.
3 !~Pansy~! // May 19, 2009 at 7:15 am
woman mostly orgasim on there clit.. so have him do some oral clit stimulation or with him fingers. Itll work if he goes at it long enough
4 Dr who // May 21, 2009 at 9:23 pm
get you a vibrator and do your c**t and you will have many you need more RPM’s than he can give you,you don’t need a round one even a flat one will do and electric is better.
5 npaulette // May 23, 2009 at 3:37 am
You are planning on giving, what exactly as a surprise? I think one of your problems is that you think the orgasm is for him. Honey, it’s all for you. I think maybe, you should try to discover yourself when you are home alone. It can take a long time for a woman to reach an orgasm. Until you figure yourself out…he probably won’t be able to do it. I say maybe….he could go downstairs for awhile. A glass of wine before hand may work too. ANyway, hope that’s helpful.
6 mi18 // May 24, 2009 at 4:35 pm
i get the impression from the line “My boyfriend and I have been going at it” that you are both still teens. dont worry, it’s not you. remember that this is all pretty new to both of you. he’s not sure what he needs to do & your not sure what you need him to do. it will come( no pun intended) in time. somewhere in your life you will come across a guy who knows what, where & how to please you. whatever you do dont get uptight about it. until he figures you out or you meet a guy that can press your buttons just fake it. he wont know the difference.
7 xaev77 // May 26, 2009 at 10:19 pm
While i am a guy, i have heard a little. It kinda depends. Do you masturbate? Can you orgasm alone?
If the answers are no, then that may be the start of it. Get comfortable doing it alone, learn to orgasm alone. Then when you’ve got that down, its time to bring him in.
Teach him to perform oral sex on you. Tell him what feels good and turns you on. If you’re shady on the details, head to wiki or about a dozen other sites that talk about it.
If that still doesn’t work, its time for you to take the reigns. Assuming you can orgasm alone, try to do so with him present. Once that works, try adding him to the mix.
Let him get you warmed up and then finish yourself off. Or get yourself to the edge and then let him take you over it.
And its completely normal for a woman not to be able to orgasm through standard penetration. Its been theorized that for men an orgasm is mostly about sensation. For women its more about feeling secure and safe. Just take your time and enjoy the journey.
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