burgermeister asked:
My husband likes to kiss and so do I, but he’s a bit slobbery and sticks his tongue into my mouth before his lips touch mine. Before when we were younger and dating, our kisses were sexy, wet and long.(please don’t get grossed out), but now I feel like I’m gonna choke or something. It’s awkward now and I prefer not to kiss anymore. I try to tell him while we’re kissing but we’ll just stop and head to sex. He asks me why I don’t like to kiss him anymore, I tell him the truth and he gets a little sad. Do I need to get him a kissing video or something? Help with the slobber monster!
9 responses so far ↓
1 FRANCO // Feb 13, 2010 at 9:20 am
Get him a kissing video, he might get the hint from someone else besides you.
2 Joyce D // Feb 16, 2010 at 2:21 pm
Why not show him how you would like to be kissed. I have to slow my husband down from time to time and show him again how I like to be kissed.
3 SimplyLovely // Feb 18, 2010 at 4:44 pm
When he goes to kiss you, back down a little. To slow him down a bit. Sounds to me like he wants to get right to having sex. Tell him that you need the romance back in his kisses.
4 JEM // Feb 21, 2010 at 2:13 am
Hmm….well I won’t say where I learned this but I “heard” that taking control of the situation works wonders.
Basically, when you guys get in that mood and start kissing, take the lead. Tell him not to kiss back, position him the way you want him, back up when he’s doing to much….take control in a sexy flirty way.
He’ll get the point but it will take some time.
Talking to him can help but he will get a bruised ego…after all wouldn’t you?
5 Very Honest // Feb 24, 2010 at 7:48 am
If you’ve been confronting him about that and he just gets a little sad, and doesn’t do anything about it, then you have to teach him a lesson.
When something in your marriage is not making the two of you happy, then you have a problem. In your case, something very easy to fix. If he is not willing to ask you what you don’t like and what you would love for him to do, then he seems to be very immature. So just threaten that if doesn’t want to make it better, then you will have to stop kissing him.
6 S&T // Feb 26, 2010 at 3:01 am
Ya, I dont know what to say hun…typically, thats not something that you can change overnight, he has probably been doing this for a while now. The best thing to do is just talk to him, if he doesnt listen, dont kiss him until he gets the point, or stop and say slow down with no tongue and try kissing him again, if that does not work, head to barnes and noble to find any books on this sort of thing. Good Luck
7 stephanaie t // Feb 28, 2010 at 4:59 am
talk , teach and get to work.
8 Gem // Mar 1, 2010 at 2:19 am
Give him kissing lessons. Make a game of it. A few minutes per day, do lips kissing and slowly move into french.
Worked for me.
9 inoffensive nickname // Mar 4, 2010 at 5:13 am
That’s a hard one because men have such fragile egos as it is, but you may want to try telling him that while you really just enjoyed having his mouth all over you when you were younger, nowadays, you’d prefer slower and drier kisses than he’s used to giving.
Tell him to slow down a bit and save the tongue for greener pastures.
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